We do attract who and what we are. I was just seating down and setting up my development/production (personal) rails and web development environment when my brother got a call from some girl and they got to talking and the conversation went south for me but great for him. Don’t get me wrong, I am no prude I just think that their should be some sort of decorum because you do not want others to think that the chic you are speaking with is inching toward what society would call a slut. However, I soon realized that I to was judging them like society would and quickly turned the situation, in my mind, into a funny situation.
You see, I have made up my mind to walk more in a way of the “universe” or to be liberated mentally from the shackles of traditions, culture, religion and the box that people tend to place others in. I know how much I do not like to be look upon as this or that so what makes my brother, and the possibly the woman he is speaking with, any different. This turn of events became a teaching moment for me and enabled me to get one step closer to being the man, or in the mindset, I desire and chose to be in, which is LOVE UNCONDITIONAL. I believe that tolerance breaths lies, deceits, and eventually hatred, however, acceptance can only lead to understanding, hope, dream, knowledge and greater cooperation.
1. The capacity for or the practice of recognizing and respecting the beliefs or practices of others.
a. Leeway for variation from a standard.
b. The permissible deviation from a specified value of a structural dimension, often expressed as a percent.
3. The capacity to endure hardship or pain.
a. Physiological resistance to a toxin.
b. Diminution in the physiological response to a drug that occurs after continued use, necessitating larger doses to produce a given response.
a. Acceptance of a tissue graft or transplant without immunological rejection.
b. Unresponsiveness to an antigen that normally produces an immunological reaction.
6. The ability of an organism to resist or survive infection by a parasitic or pathogenic organism.
1. The act or process of accepting.
2. The state of being accepted or acceptable.
3. Favorable reception; approval.
4. Belief in something; agreement.
When you look at both nouns you immediately see the differences, which all boils down to action and reaction. Acceptance is casted more toward the doable whereas tolerance is casted more toward the reactive. Even in the medical part of the description it’s more towards reactive not an active role. That is why I believe that tolerance is not what I want when I deal with my fellow-man (human beings), I want to be more towards the active part of the dealing because when I am active I can mingle, understand and know my opponent, enemy, friend, stranger, and society’s outcast better. Now, I say outcast because that is how I may be seen and/or view or treated base on my whole person both inside and out. That is why I understand my brothers and sisters of the “alternative” lifestyle(s) a little better and I have much more to learn, comprehend and know or see.
I may not be gay, goth, punk, death metal, sadist, or into S&M but I have come to understand that everybody has different needs, wants, desires that are solely theirs and/or unique to them and we should not judge them, unless we too should be judged. My only issue is when people of any camp force their views onto others because they believe their’s is the only way. No, it is not, at least not in the way I understand it. It is different to share who you are with others but beat them over the head or force onto others with your belief is another, at least that is how I have come to understand Christ, Buddha, Ghandi, Mother Teresa, Allah, and others. They preached and thought LOVE UNCONDITIONAL, so I hope that this site and/or corner of the web can be a beacon to this truth, light and hope. I share because I want to LOVE unconditionally as much as possible and grow in and with it. I am not perfect but I will do my best nonetheless.